Knowing Your Fuck

Is it perfectly okay with having friends just for sex? Well I’m not talking about friends with benefits… but more like people you know purely for sex, more like a sex contact.

In my understanding, friends with benefits, FWB, are people you know and can hang out with as friends… but also do have a non-romantic sexual relationship with. And a sex contact, SC, is someone you meet purely for sexual relationships, outside of sex, you guys want nothing to do with each other at all.

As a disclaimer, I currently neither have a FWB nor a SC, but have been speaking to friends about it and it kinda got me thinking…. I was wondering how could you actually have sex with someone you do not feel any emotion for other than lust?

In that sense a SC is a turn off for me because I find it very hard to make luv with a guy I know nothing about apart from his package, his six-pack and bubble butt. Even if we’re just gonna be FWB, I suppose I have to at least get to know you a little before I actually do it with you. I don’t want the relationship to be a meet-hi-fuck-shower-bye kind of relationship.

At least lets go for dinner, or a coffee and talk a little, get to know each other before we actually fuck, that’s the way I like to go about it. Then if we both feel sexually attracted, then yea lets do it :) With that said, FWBs are a sensitive space… you guys are definitely friends… but you can never be close friends. Because frankly once you’ve fucked someone… things change. I suppose that is also one of the reasons I don’t just try to make all my hot friends around me a FWB, coz I most certainly treasure their friendships and do not want it to become weird. Haha that’s me being conceited to think that my friends find me attractive enough to sleep with in the first place :p

And I want to make it clear I’m perfectly okay with other people doing it with their SCs, its just that I personally wont do it coz it’s a turn off for me. So its certainly not because I judge you or anything, I’m perfectly fine with how you want to run you life, so you should let me run my own life by finding SCs a turn off. Lol, that was me ranting to my friend when he says I was judging him. I’m not, its just not my thing, that’s all, I like to ease into the sex… and by easing, I don’t just mean foreplay.

Signing out.