A Mic for Christmas

Well, since starting a new job recently, I've been super busy... hence the super duper ultra belated blog update... but today's post will be a rant about one of the dates I've been on recently.

Picture this...

Sample of cute guy

You meet this cute guy on a social networking site... he looks hot and cute, two ridiculously superficial qualities I can't help but like, and sounds like a decent person when exchanging messages. So then you swap numbers with him and arrange to go out for dinner together...

Everything seems perfect, until you finally meet up, and the thing I say most, on what I consider to be the first date, is none other than: "huh?" and "what?".

Mind you that isn't in response to something crazy or outrageous that he said... rather its because I can't hear him half of the time. That is seriously a real turn off!

Boys, speak up! If I wanted to date a chirping sparrow... I would have done that... although I wouldn't know what we would do in the bedroom. I find it an absolute turn off when guys just whisper their answers... how can we have a decent conversation if I can't hear your responses? Am I scaring you that much that you can't find your voice.

Err... Hello! We aren't in a library okay... you don't have to lower your voice and whisper... The only signal I get from a guy that doesn't talk with a normal volume is that he lacks confidence... and some guys may like a timid, quiet, barely audible boyfriend...(14th century men: women are meant to be seen not heard? or was it slaves?) but not me. I think conversation and communication is important, so if we can't have that, then I don't think anything is going to work out.

Hey, this was just a dinner meet up... Imagine if we were doing some other extra curricular activities together,

"More? Do you want more?"

"..."

"huh? what did you say?" (for the kinkier readers, no he isn't gagged -.-)

“…”

“huh? I cant hear you…”

Well there goes the mood, turn off man...

mind you I was asking him if he wanted to do more reps...

Word of advice boys, speak up, confidence attracts!

Signing out.

Why Is It So Difficult To Just Reply A Message?

Maybe my online profile picture is not hot enough, but I usually get a lot of non-reply to my messages. And that is really very very annoying. I go through the trouble to type a message to a guy, although it might be a short message asking, how are you? Would you like to be friends? And in return I don’t even get a reply? Haha… how mean >.< Truthfully, I’d much rather the guy reply a simple no thank you, I’m not interested, rather than absolutely not reply at all… Leaving me to wonder whether or not the message got lost in cyber space. I seriously would much prefer a reply of rejection, rather than not getting a response. I don’t know how most people grew up, but I was always taught to be polite, even when rejecting people.



“No thank you, not interested. Have a nice day.”
(letter count : 46) and that’s inclusive of the punctuation and the spaces, sigh… even if one took 2 seconds to type 1 letter, typing that sentence would take less than 2 minutes…

It’s a good thing I don’t have low self esteem, otherwise getting no reply to the messages I send can be very detrimental to my mental health!!! LoL

Signing out.

A Foul Chat In Cyber Space

I was on an Aussie dating website chatting with someone when I encountered the most unbelievable situation... I was actually told off for being polite and honest. Here what happened...

I was chatting and saw this guy, he started chatting with me so I replied and we started the usual small talk stuff, "do you work or study?" "what do you like to do on your free time?" "where do you live?" "do you live alone?" all the standard small talk things to help start a conversation. I visited his profile page, and it showed a guy that looked quite well but with huge sunglasses on... so I couldn't really see his race. He said he was interested to be friends, and I was like, sure... You can never have too many friends I suppose.

Then he asked me if we wanted to meet up... and I was like, okay... but asked him if he had another picture of himself. This time he sent a face pic without the sunglasses, and uh-oh... I realised that although he was hot, he was just not the race that I was into. Lets not get hasty and let me explain myself before you (the readers) start calling me a racist bastard... I have many friends from many different races and nationalities, and I have absolutely no hang ups about being friends or even good friends with them. The only thing is that certain races absolutely do nothing for my sex drive. This most certainly doesn't make me a racist... I mean just because I'm not particularly sexually attracted to girls, it doesn't mean that I don't be friends with them... In fact I have many close girl friends.

Anyway, I was honest with this guy online and politely told him that I'm not sexually attracted to him, but I guess we could still be friends. Guess what I got for being honest? I got a whole barrage of insults and name calling, followed by foul languages that makes Gordan Ramsey seem nice, all rained down onto me. And after that before I could explain myself to him, he blocked and ignored me from that website. I was like WTF !



There is nothing I can do if I'm not sexually attracted to a particular race or gender, but it certainly doesn't mean I can't be friends with them... right? After all that was what he said he wanted to do in the first place, to be friends... and it was even stated in his profile that he was looking for friendship, amongst all the other stuff... I think that guy was just being mean to me...
>.<

Signing out.