One of my closest girl friend, which happens to know that I am gay, recently found a new boyfriend, someone who I strongly disapprove of. We were really close in the past, with her being one of the only straight friends of mine that know I am gay. And no, if any of you were wondering, no she isn’t my fag hag, we’re just really really close friends.
The thing is that her boyfriend is one of those paranoid nutcases that deserves to be locked up in a padded asylum while wearing a straight jacket. He apparently is one of those domineering-type boyfriend that wants to spend every possible minute of the day with her. And that is just one of the many reasons why I dislike him, if i had to list them all down, we'll be here all day long.
Anyway, it turns out that now whenever she wants to meet any of her friends, me included, he has to be there. That to me is absolutely unacceptable, I mean c’mon… dude, cant you let your girlfriend meet her friends without you being there? This truly is a problem for me because I cant stand the sight of him mainly due to the fact that I just personally don’t like him as a person.
So I cant meet my friend at all lately because of this stupid situation. The irony is that we (both me and my girl friend) use to have a mutual friend that slowly cut us off because that mutual friend’s boyfriend was one of these control freaks as well. At that time the both of us felt that she shouldn’t let her boyfriend control her life like that, and we were both criticising her for getting into that predicament. Low and behold, exactly one year later, my friend finds herself in the exact same position. And you can imagine how hypocritical it is of her to say that she understands the situation and she just needs time to change him… get him to be less dominating.
Sigh…As if you can ever change a guy, I'm a guy... And I'm pretty sure you cant.
Signing out.
There's nothing that you can do actually. If she won't save the friendship then...
ReplyDeleteBahahahaha. And another year later, you'll be the one with a boyfriend who'll be there whenever you meet up with your friends. :P
ReplyDeleteEvery couple will have their own lifestyle...if she accepts the characteristic of her bf, it's beyond everyone's control.
ReplyDeleteyes, it is hypocritical... but who am I to say anything about them when I am a hypocrite myself. People change... sometimes i think is better to just accept things as they are and adapt to it.
ReplyDeleteYea Will... but I still feel I should try and do something to salvage the friendship.
ReplyDeleteHaha Evann... as if...
Yea SHawk, but the thing is she realise that he is being unfair... but does nothing much to change that fact. I really wish she'd just leave him.
I know I have to accept it someday, but I'm just not ready for it Bbear. I still secretly hope there is something I can do about it.